When people are not well-informed about something, their imaginations tend to take over. If you asked some people, they’d tell you that getting a sex change was the big kicker that makes you a ‘real’ transexual.
Forgive me for being trite, but is it really what’s between your legs that makes you a man or a woman? If you ask me I have a different opinion. Look into someones eyes. What do you see? Gentle, loving eyes? Fierce, fiery intensity? I look into those little windows and I see different things.
See, the thing is that changing genders is largely a mental process rather than a physical one. While hormone replacement can certainly alter your appearance (especially if you start young enough), ultimately Your body is still fundamentally the same. It’s a real journey of self discovery.
It might be interesting to know that the majority of transgendered people do not get sexual reassignment surgery. Why? First of all, do you have any idea how darn expensive it is? You could buy a car or something with the money a transgendered person might end up spending on surgeries. (I mean, woa! look at these prices.. Oh, and that’s not even mentioning the waiting lists.
And that’s if you are on-board with the idea. Truth be told it’s rather risky and can leave you scarred for life! There are many, many things that can go wrong. and they often do. The post-op suicide rate is alarmingly high. As for why I’ll get to that. Hey, Ever Heard of something called facial feminization surgery? Or Chest reconstruction surgery? (Called top surgery by trans-men) Those procedures are far more important than adding or removing something most people never will never see.
I seem to recall that some Lawmakers seem to have gotten it into their heads that a “Pre Op” transsexual can’t legally be a man or a woman (I may be mistaken). So these lawmakers don’t seem to understand the reality of the situation. What you end up with is a one of 2 things:
- A bit of grafted skin transplanted from elsewhere. It probably looks a little funny (I don’t know much about FTM. sorry.)
- An inversion of the penis (only cosmetic surgery) that can get infected and along with mental and physical scarring plus a decent chance of loss of sensation.
Some people put everything into those appointments, and raise such unrealistic expectations that have no choice to be crushed when faced with reality. Please! anyone considering any of these things. Don’t put unrealistic expectations of it making all your dysphoria go away. It will only end up hurting you.
I warn those wish to go ahead with such a radical procedure that they might not end up with what they had in mind. Sure, maybe you were born into the wrong body? So was I.
I suggest Changing your face if you want to be a woman. Or getting rid of your breasts if you wish to be a man. And for people not transitioning to realise that people don’t have to have it.
Some further reading if you are interested: